I had a rather strange weekend. I can’t exactly say why, but that’s the way I felt it. Conversations with people made me realize some unpleasant things about the society we live in. The never-dying subject of discution: realtionships. Why do they die so easily today? All this time I thought it was because people are more independent, women don’t keep quiet anymore about abusive husbands, etc. But I was only partially right. The conclusion I reached is that we are more SELFISH than ever.
We complain we lack love, we are lonely, nobody understands us, but we are not capable of little sacrifices that would only make our life happier afterwards. “I will not change for anybody!”, “I don’t care about the people around me so much.”, “I wish I could fall in love, but I just can’t, because I don’t care about him/her”. I hear these everyday, I feel I don’t agree, but there is nothing I can do about them. I wouldn’t even know what to say to these people. “Care more, think less of yourself and more about the others, etc. etc.” Would they listen? Don’t think so… It is their life and they do what they want with it.
People cry for happiness (in a love relationship, I should mention that), but still, after so many thousands of years, fewer and fewer of us find it. Is it because we are so concentrated to get to the Moon that we forget to visit our own planet. We are so full of ourselves, that we actually know so little about us, what makes us tick. We only feel OUR needs, OUR pains, OUR broken hearts and if we don’t get soothing from somebody we move on. Why? Because we are so perfect, right? WE deserve all the attention and the love from everybody else. True, we should not think we are not worthy persons, but we should try to look around and try to make others happy besides ourselves.
We live in a society that teaches us to ask for more, never to be satisfied with what we have. “I have a nice pair of shoes, I want one more, this one is not enough.” “I have a nice job, but I want more, I want to go up in my company.” “I have a nice boyfriend that really loves me and would do anything for me, but he makes me feel bored, because he is like a puppy around me. Plus, he is too short and does not have a car. I want a boyfriend with a car.” Wow, these are wise words! We should live our lives according to them! NOT!
We forget to enjoy the little things that may make us happy. Holding hands in the park, a kiss on the forehead, a warm hug on a cold night, or just a smile. I know I am an idealist, a helpless one, but I can’t help it. And maybe I am happier than many others, because I don’t expect anything. I just take things as they are and enjoy every moment as much as I can.
And perhaps we all should from time to time…
nu stiu ce sa zic inafara de faptul k ai dreptate , dar eu personal cred ca multa lume confunda sentimentul de atractie cu love at first sight si daca ala dispare intervine plictiseala . Pacat ca in ziua de azi este prea multa iubire materiala decat cea adevarata .
Mmmm, nu ştiu. Mie mi se pare că prea puţini cred de fapt că iubesc. Poate sunt prinşi în vâltoarea asta de work, sex, fun, că uită ce e aia profunzime (în afară de cea vaginală, ofc). Uite nişte versuri din Jewel pe care le iubesc şi care mi se par un punct de referinţă în credinţele mele legate de viaţă: “Show me a man who knows his own heart,/ To him I shall belong.”
English: Mmm, I don’t know. It seems to me that few actually believe the fact that they love. Maybe they are so caught up in the “work, sex, fun” whirlpool, that they forget what it means to be deep (except for inside the vagina, ofc). Here are some lyrics from Jewel that I really love and that guide my beliefs about life: “Show me a man who knows his own heart,/ To him I shall belong.”
PS. Sorry, I try to keep the comments in my English in the same language, because I also have readers who do not speak Romanian.
Well …Love is a complicated feeling . I think soulmates exist but not always they are your lover , sometimes you’re friend or siblings . They say you can’t live without them and that you have a special connection with them . you know I think just two times in my life I felt my heart pounding like hell when I first met someone and first time it didn’t quite worked out but now we’re friends . The fact is that it was a relationship so deep that it fell apart .
I agree but only to some extent. I don’t think I believe in soul mates… it seems too supernatural a feeling for me to accept… But I believe in feelings. A lover for me is a very good friend, first of all, and then comes the rest of the stuff, so basicly the feeling of love is the same just wrapped into different present boxes. Receiving them implies selflessness and empathy. I guess not all of us have it…